By the Ocean
Sunny 80 Degrees
8:46 a.m.
When I started as an entrepreneur (I don’t even know if I qualify for that word, a better word would probably be “happily unemployed”), all I wanted was a successful business.
I had things exactly backwards, which is probably why I bounced around like a confused lemming for so many years.
I wanted the business so I could have the life I dreamed of.
I never thought about pursuing the life I wanted and finding a business that supported that.
But that seems to be a much smarter approach! Backwards thinking gets you suffering. That’s my experience. I know. I lived it.
A certain type of life is really what we’re all after. And that’s a blessing. Because introducing constraints into a system makes choices much easier.
If you know what kind of life you want, you’ve made a lot of progress without even doing anything. You can disqualify a lot of opportunities because they simply won’t lead to the real goal you have for yourself.
The truth is, I couldn’t start any business I wanted. Most don’t interest me, many more don’t provide the freedom I need and want throughout the day to be here, pretty much ALL OF THE TIME, for my kids, and some of them just aren’t practical vehicles to provide the amount of resources that 10 kids, 2 adults and too many pets require to thrive.
It takes some guts to make it known you DON’T want the things that so many other people say they want. The Matrix makes that a hard thing to do. You feel alone, like you’re swimming upstream, like you’re floating out in the middle of the ocean with little to no support anywhere to be found.
This is what the process of finding yourself feels like. If we were trained to do this in school, we wouldn’t have to do the work as adults. But I spent my childhood learning useless things to achieve meaningless goals. That’s what the Matrix is about.
But that’s not the life I wanted so I had to abort and start over.
I figured out what gifts I had that could solve problems for others. I worked to figure out how those gifts needed to be packaged to become attractive to the world.
And then I started serving people through messages just like this. People I don’t know, will probably never meet and most likely will never work with directly.
And all of my answers came from that service.
What life do you want and what do you need to build to support that? This is not a question you answer with a survey, or by asking friends, or by checking in with ChatGPT.
This is something YOU answer yourself. That’s the only way you have a chance of ever getting the right answer.